“ IT’S OKAY TO BE SELFISH !! ”

We all have heard this..

That - “ I have done this for them but they never did anything for me.. N all such things.. ”

Yes ??

All these things go on.. and these are really small things to be discussed..

There are many other bigger problems in life rather than these small issues which can be solved.. But only if we’ll sort it out rather than stretching it too much ..!!

Right ??

So the one thing we never observe is..

“ Whatever we do in our life..

Consciously or Subconsciously..

We do it for ourselves !! ”

Simple enough ??

From birth until death.. whatever we do in our life..

Even from the basic things to the important goals of life..

We do the every single thing for ourselves..!!

Yes ??

See..

The basic thing which we do since our birth to the death..

i.e breathe ..!!

We breathe because we want to live..!!

Even at the last moment of our life.. Yet till the death.. We try to breathe..!!

Right ??

Can it ever happen ..

That we’ll think to not breathe for sometime..

So that it'll be easier for someone else to breathe .. ??

No..

Why ..

Because if we’ll not breathe we will die..!!

So indirectly we’ll think about ourself first..!!

Yes ??

From..

Eating food.. Drinking water till sleeping at night..

Everything we are doing for ourselves..

You eat food to survive.. You drink water to stay hydrated..

You sleep at night to give rest to yourself..

So whatever you are doing..

You are doing it for yourself !!

Isn’t it ??

Even..

We make friends ..

Because we like being with them.. We love their company..!!

We love someone ..

To feel special..!!

Yah ??

Even if..

I am donating money somewhere..

I’ll do it for my happiness first..

Yes ??

Will you do this for being great or by feeling bad for someone if you’ll not have enough of the money to donate.. To help..??

No..

Because.. Indirectly first you’ll think whether you can donate with ease..!!

Yes ??

Would you donate if you did not have money ??

No..

You can’t even do so..!!

Right ??

So..

All of these things you’ll do if they’ll be possible for you to do without bothering yourself.. & if they’ll make you feel good.. happy !!

That’s it..!!

But.. No..

Still we want more..

So then..

We start expecting from others..

That if I'm doing something for someone..

Then they should also do something for me..

And this cycle of expectations never ends..!!

Now it also defends to my words which i said earlier as -

“ Whatever you do in your life..

You do it for yourself..!! ”

As now you helped others so you did that for their happiness..

But actually it is not like that..

It's as if you are doing something for someone then you are indirectly doing that for yourself..

And if it brings you satisfaction and happiness then that’s it..!!

So the process of giving and taking was completed here..

&

That’s what smart people do..

They choose such paths which’ll help both to themselves and to others..!!

See ..

You did something for someone but you cannot expect the same from them..

So.. you did something for them it brought you happiness then that’s it..

Don’t stretch it..

Because whatever you have done for them.. You cannot ask them to have it’s importance and to thank you..

Isn’t it ??

So ..

If you are helping anyone then don’t expect anything in return..

Just see that you are helping and you are firstly doing it for yourself..!!

Okay .. ??

You know..

Once in our life…

This situation comes.. when we have to choose between our own happiness and someone else's happiness..!!

And at that time we firstly think about people..

We think about - “ what people will say..?? ” “ log kya kahenge..?? ”

We think that if we’ll think about our own happiness then people will say that you are selfish..

&..

If we think about others happiness then they’ll say that you are great..!!

Yes or no ??

But now you have to choose what you want ..

Your own happiness or others happiness..??!!

Always remember ..

You are a human being not a robot..

You cannot be good everywhere..

You have your own feelings and freedom to choose whatever you want to..!!

See ..

You only live once ..

So it’s upto you..

You need to decide how you want to live your life..!!

At the end you’ll only have yourself..

So be your first priority..

People will always judge you no matter what..

So don’t follow any of them..

Just choose your own way to live life happily..

Make your own life rules..

&

Enjoy the journey called " Life " !!

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