THE JOURNEY OF RELATIONS FROM LOVE TO HATE ??!!

So …

Wanna know ??

Why do relationships go from love to hate ??!!

Okay..

Often we feel the person we are with will be with us forever ..

But.. there comes a comma to make sure whether you are sure or not.. or else a full stop to finally end the relation ..!!

Right ??

“ The nastiest situations happen not among the enemies..

But among the so called loved ones !! ”

“ Love means you are willing to nurture another life, without forming opinions !! ”

It should be a relationship of nurture , not opinionated !!

You know why relationships go from love to hate ..??

Living in a family..

We have to deal with our loved ones ideas and opinions about our life..

How do we handle that ??

These are not your loved ones..

These are your extra limbs..!!

See..

If you are not able to stand on two legs..

So you need four or six or eight or ten.. or many ..

These are the extra limbs ..

And when the limbs are not well coordinated they tangle up..

Right ??

Have you seen an octopus ??

It has eight limbs ..

They never get tangled or stuck to each other because the sensors recognise octopus skin and prevent self-attachment…

That means it has a coordination mechanism in them ..

Right ??

So similarly ..

We need that coordination in between our extra limbs which are our relationships with others..

Are you getting my point ??

Okay ..

Let me give you another example..

We have tongue inside our mouth and whenever we close our mouth the teeths we have locks the tongue inside ..

Right ?

If our tongue ever comes under the teeths .. what will happen ??

It’ll hurt and can also make injury right ??

So they have that coordination in them to manage all this ..

Yes or no ??

So ..

As there are five or six brains ..

Means there are five or six power centers working together ..

Then they need to be well coordinated ..

Right ??

And for it to be well coordinated ..

Certain things have to be done !!

One way for it is ..

with an enormous level of connectedness..

and that too not the emotional one.. !!

“ Emotional connectedness just brings dependency .. !! ”

Emotion is something which should be enjoyed ..

It is the juice of life..!!

As of blood to the body .. emotions are for life !!

You cannot make your emotions work for you ..!!

And even you should not make them work..

You can make your thought work..

You can make your body work..

But never try to make your emotions work ..!!

Whenever you try to make your emotions work for you ..

Your situation turns nasty .. isn’t it so ??

Yes or no ??

Initially ..

“ I love you ” works..

And with time..

You try to make your emotions work for you .. !!

And the harder you try to make it work..

The nastier your life gets ..

Because emotion is not for work.. it cannot work !!

Emotions are just to sweeten your life..

Where as..

Your thoughts and body should work..

Emotions will just be there .. !!

Emotions are like the ice in your juice ..

Emotions are like the toppings on your cake ..

Emotions are like the ganache on your ice-cream ..

You don’t make all these things work for you ..

They are just there.. That's all .. !!

Isn't it so ??

“ Emotions are like that ..

They are just there..

Pleasant and wonderful !! ”

If you try to make it work ..

If you try to extract some life..

From around you with your emotions..

It is bound to turn uglier then..!!

Yes ??

So..

If you don’t have a working brain ..

If you are not capable of being thoughtful ..

Then you try to use your emotions to make it work..

It may work sometimes..

And there comes the whole problem !!

It works initially ..

And then you try to push it further ..

Then your life turns so nasty, horribly nasty..!!

Among people who are supposed to care for eachother..

The people who loved each other ..

Then starts hating each other terribly !!

So ..

I said..

The nastiest situation happens not among enemies..

But among the so called loved ones ..!!

Now ..

Do you agree with me or not ??

Am I being too harsh on explaining ??

Yes ??

So..

Coming back to the point..

People have their opinions ..!!

If you love somebody..

Then you should not have any opinion and that's what love means !!

Love means you are willing to nurture another life without forming any opinions !!

If you have loved ones..

And have strong opinions about each other ..

Then that means you are trying to fix life..!!

“ An opinion is a way of fixing a person in the certain pattern you would like .. !!

And..

Love means nurturing a person into a new possibility !! ”

And these two things cannot go together ..

No way..

They can never be together ..!!

You make judgements for the moment to nurture it better ..

And that's true and needed ..

See for a parent this is needed to make some judgments to know upto where the child is right now ..

To rear them to a next possibility .. to let them grow..

But not by forming any opinion .. !!

Isn’t it ??

“ The moment you form an opinion..

You lose the interest of nurturing that life into a new possibility..

Then

You only want to fix it in a shell of your opinion ..

And you will get disappointed if it doesn’t go according to your opinions !! ”

Noo…

That's not the way to be close to people..!!

So ..

If you want to have a close relationship with people then ..

there should be the relationship with nurture not with opinions !!

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